Friday, August 1, 2014

Hear Me Loud And Clear


I will not be intimidated by any of you with this notion that you control all of us in the community. I will not be bullied into submission because I don't see things your way. It is clear that those of you who are constantly engaging in war with the world and even with those of us in the LGBT community, who don't see things your way, have deep rooted issues and are showing the lack of security and happiness you have within. You have this you are with us or against us attitude, and this doesn't fly with me.

I will interview on my show whom I please, you do not pay me to do the shows, nor have any of you in these diluted groups ever donated, or even as much as given us a thank you for the years we have worked to create great shows and interviews. You are acting like a bunch of spoiled hormonal adolescences.

To the low life who can't even create a real Facebook account who has been threatening my sponsors, (Jan Noonya) I suggest you worry about your life, your transition and stop worrying about what others do, think or say, you are looking for legal actions against you. It is apparent that those of you who are on this mission to attack others as well as forcing your views on them, are miserable and in need of psychological intervention. You have nothing else better to do than to sit in front of a computer and try to reek havoc, you are nothing more than your typical Keyboard Extremist Warriors.  


Realize that he world owes you nothing, and I believe you are going about this the wrong way. You are threatening people and trying to intimidate us to see things your way. Everyone is entitled to their views and you can't force us to change them. Understand that you will get more out of people and life by being kind, less intrusive and less threatening.  You can't expect the privileges you once had or the way you were socialized, to cross over to your new life, and I believe this is where the problem lies. You want to be respected and be seen as women, then start acting like one. As of now all you are doing is showing the world the lack of social skills you have, how dysfunctional your truly are and that in most of your cases, you are in need of major therapy. This goes beyond Gender Dysphoria.

So for now I say, you want war? You want to continue this path you are on? I suggest you pick your battles and who you choose to battle with. I am not the person you wish to mess with.

I have been in the trenches for way too long, to have a bunch of idiots tell me how I should do my shows, or what I should or should not say.

I am Mark Angelo Cummings, Trans Man On A Mission and you don't want me as your enemy, trust me on that.




Friday, July 11, 2014

The Transgender Hierarchy of Evil

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     What is it with the transgender hierarchy? Why do we have it? Is there any real reason for it to exist besides driving wedges between transgender women and inhibiting our drive towards equality? I recently had an encounter in which I was asked if I was de-transitioning simply because I was wearing a pair of jeans! You have heard of the phrase "the clothes make the man(or woman)" but in the case of transgender women this seems to be true in spades. Yet the hierarchy does not stop there, oh no! What you happen to have between your legs, whether or not you are on hormones and many other factors go into finding your place in the pecking order. Meeting another transwoman for the first time, within two minutes we had to find out where we stood in the hierarchy; immediately inquiring about what our surgery status was. Don't get me wrong, I participate in it too whether consciously or unconsciously and wish that I didn't.  So here are some of my ideas about the transgender hierarchy and how we can break it down to bring us closer together as transwomen and transmen. We all have one thing in common that we should be concentrating on instead, our so justly deserved equality. So the next time you interact with a transgender person, keep some of these ideas in mind.
  • Your surgical status does not determine whether or not you are a transgender person! Pre-op, Post-op, Non-op, orchiectomy only, top surgery or no top surgery...You are all transgender and part of our family!
  • Your hormone status does not determine your transgender status either, you can be on hormones, not on hormones, waiting for hormones or never wanting hormones you can still identify as a transgender person. The only person who can determine that status, is you.
  • Whether or not you "pass" or "blend in" as your desired gender does not determine your transgender status nor does completely passing make you soWhat is it with the transgender hierarchy? Why do we have it? Is there any real reason for it to exist besides driving wedges between transgender women and inhibiting our drive towards equality? I recently had an encounter in which I was asked if I was de-transitioning simply because I was wearing a pair of jeans! You have heard of the phrase "the clothes make the man(or woman)" but in the case of transgender women this seems to be true in spades. Yet the hierarchy does not stop there, oh no! What you happen to have between your legs, whether or not you are on hormones and many other factors go into finding your place in the pecking order. Meeting another transwoman for the first time, within two minutes we had to find out where we stood in the hierarchy; immediately inquiring about what our surgery status was. Don't get me wrong, I participate in it too whether consciously or unconsciously and wish that I didn't.  So here are some of my ideas about the transgender hierarchy and how we can break it down to bring us closer together as transwomen and transmen. We all have one thing in common that we should be concentrating on instead, our so justly deserved equality. So the next time you interact with a transgender person, keep some of these ideas in mind.

    • Your surgical status does not determine whether or not you are a transgender person! Pre-op, Post-op, Non-op, orchiectomy only, top surgery or no top surgery...You are all transgender and part of our family!
    • Your hormone status does not determine your transgender status either, you can be on hormones, not on hormones, waiting for hormones or never wanting hormones you can still identify as a transgender person. The only person who can determine that status, is you.
    • Whether or not you "pass" or "blend in" as your desired gender does not determine your transgender status nor does completely passing make you somehow not trans. Trying to determine who is more of a woman or man is a pointless endeavour and not only causes hurt but divides us on a very personal level. I personally experienced this when I was walking down the street one day and came across another transwoman. She looked at me, and upon determining that I don't pass very well, crossed the street so she would not have to pass me, lest someone detect that she is trans simply by passing another transwoman on the street! She might as well stabbed me in the chest when she did that! I did not measure up to her level on the hierarchy of transgender people...
    • Physical characteristics do not determine your transgender status, yet we insist on judging each other on the merits of whether or not we can grow a lot of facial hair or how big your boobs grow. Get over it people! We are all equal, all transgender and all in one great big dysfunctional family!
    • What you wear does not determine whether or not you are transgender and in no way classifies you as a man or a woman! I can wear jeans and it in no way changes the fact that I am a transgender woman any more than a cisgender woman becomes a man if she is wearing blue jeans as well. Yet so many transwomen cling to the idea that you have to dress like a 1950's housewife to be considered a transwoman, Bullocks'!
    • Wearing a wig or having your own hair makes no difference to your status as a transgender person.
    • Your religion does not make any difference to you being a transgender person.  
           
         So let's all get out there and connect with each other people! It's obvious that these measurements or rulers do not, in reality, make a whiff of difference to who you are as a human being. Don't let someone use these rules about hierarchy to get you down or put you in your place. We are all sisters and brothers in this great big transgender family so drop the facades and help bring us together in our common struggle towards equality. The transgender hierarchy should be put to rest and we should all acknowledge all no matter what stage of their evolution they are in. Even better, love them for who they are...
    mehow not trans. Trying to determine who is more of a woman or man is a pointless endeavor and not only causes hurt but divides us on a very personal level. I personally experienced this when I was walking down the street one day and came across another transwoman. She looked at me, and upon determining that I don't pass very well, crossed the street so she would not have to pass me, lest someone detect that she is trans simply by passing another transwoman on the street! She might as well stabbed me in the chest when she did that! I did not measure up to her level on the hierarchy of transgender people...
  • Physical characteristics do not determine your transgender status, yet we insist on judging each other on the merits of whether or not we can grow a lot of facial hair or how big your boobs grow. Get over it people! We are all equal, all transgender and all in one great big dysfunctional family!
  • What you wear does not determine whether or not you are transgender and in no way classifies you as a man or a woman! I can wear jeans and it in no way changes the fact that I am a transgender woman anymore than a cisgender woman becomes a man if she is wearing blue jeans as well. Yet so many transwomen cling to the idea that you have to dress like a 1950's housewife to be considered a transwoman, Bullocks'!
  • Wearing a wig or having your own hair makes no difference to your status as a transgender person.
  • Your religion does not make any difference to you being a transgender person.
        So let's all get out there and connect with each other people! It's obvious that these measurements or rulers do not, in reality, make a whiff of difference to who you are as a human being. Don't let someone use these rules about hierarchy to get you down or put you in your place. We are all sisters and brothers in this great big transgender family so drop the fa├žades and help bring us together in our common struggle towards equality. The transgender hierarchy should be put to rest and we should all acknowledge all no matter what stage of their evolution they are in. Even better, love them for who they are...

*This article is dedicated to Willow X, who said to me "You should start dressing like a woman so people don't think you are my boyfriend when we go out together....."(because i was wearing jeans and a tee) and then told me I was too sensitive when I took offence...Why can't transwomen get along? Because of this transgender hierarchy, because they are incredibly insecure and have to judge other transwomen to be lesser than them in order to make themselves feel better. Then they just cant help themselves, making sure you know that you are "lower" on the "hierarchy" than they are. Well all have flaws, we all have gifts. This behaviour is childish, ridiculous and coming from a place of fear. Let it go girls......because if you don't we will always  be living in a world of shame.


The Transgender Handbook

Wednesday, July 9, 2014

More Transgender Violence

 
      Well here we go again, more transgender violence on the subway. You know that they could have just walked away but no, lay on the violence instead. This kind of action make us look so bad to the world its insane. We are trying to raise our status in the world so that we are treated with the same respect anyone deserves by acting like crazed violent people? Great strategy, Score one for the people who want us done away with. This is more fodder for the haters and it's disgusting...and a damn shame.


The Transgender Handbook


Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Anonymity on the Attack!!!

   
  Have you ever noticed how the feeling of anonymity can give some people the power to hurt others for the sake of the troll. The transgender community is no different; people spouting their opinions loud and clear at the top of their lungs! Of course, if no one listens, out comes the spam.
     What people do not realize is that their garbage is having an actual effect on people in the real world, causing real world hurt, real world anguish and real world suicides. Yes, I said it, driving yet another troll nail into the wrong person's life can cause them to do something incredibly rash and destructive. We are the authors of our own destruction by using words as weapons in the battle for "who is right" and "who is not"; undermining the transgender movement, contributing to the hierarchy of evil and causing no end of pain.
     Please stop, your opinion is not as important as someones life and may also cause irreparable damage to the transgender "community". Just because you're mad, just because your ego is bruised, don't put stuff out there on the internet that will remain forever; one more mine in the minefield of what it is to be trans.
     This kind of behavior also makes us look incredibly bad in the eyes of  the cisgender world...think about it.

The Transgender Handbook


Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Complaining And Demanding The New Trans Way






Why is it the latest craze in our community is to bitch and complain about everything? Everywhere you turn, you hear the group of angry mob bitching about not getting this or getting that? I remember at one point we were just happy to be accepted, understood or even tolerated. Now most in the community are getting cocky and demanding.



Friday, June 6, 2014

Facebook Social Media Or Facist Institution?






Many of us have grown to love the social media giant, for it has allowed us to connect with people all around the world. It has helped those who are lonely feel they are not so alone and creates a stage for voicing your opinion. But as of late, Facebook has become a source of scorn, banning people for voicing their opinion and in turn sometimes statuses turn into heated debates, of which if you have enemies, the report abuse button gets used. I find however that face book is not taking the time to fully investigate these reports and seem to be taking sides. Now I ask you are there members of the Fascist/Faux advocates infiltrating the institution? There seems to be a disturbing move on the horizon, one that is dividing a community that already had issues to begin with.


Thursday, May 29, 2014

Redefining Reality- Trainwreck Tranny Robbers

Burn Them At The Stake, Let The Trans Crusades Begin!

Unless you have been living under a rock these past few months, you have been witnessing the new witch hunt. Only this time it is not for witches, no this time it is the trans community attempting to throw their own trans identified brothers and sisters under the bus.

There is a small group of folks who really do believe that they speak for the entire community

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

We Stand Divided



So by now we know that there are two camps in our community regarding the RuPaul saga, the ones that feel offended by RuPauls use of the word Tranny, and his sense of entitlement to use the word, and the ones that support him. Now lets break this down in a way we can all understand and come to some sort of conclusion. RuPaul, has been a drag queen for many years,with a very popular series, which he promotes and help many in the community reach heights that most could not have done without him. His show is entertaining and meant as entertainment. In this quest, things are said that are suppose to be funny and entertaining. How some in the community (guided by a puppet, Carmen Carerra, who is not speaking of her own accord,  and I feel this move was guided by GLAAD, or some other political talking head that felt stirring this issue up would create major drama, and boy did it) can fall for this dog and pony show is beyond me.

Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Battles Within Leads To Battles Outside Of You






It appears that this new wave of Trans Soldiers are creating turmoil everywhere they go. Could it be that the anger and battles they are fighting within is clearly showing in their actions? I believe that the new version of trans aficionado have poor coping skills due to the lack of struggles they had to go through in their transition. They are forgetting that many of us who came before them had to pave the road to make their life and transition easier, some have even had the support of their family and have had the opportunity to transition way earlier in life than those of us who did in later years.

Friday, May 23, 2014

Let's Get Real





We as humans have battled many demons throughout history. We have had to face our own mortality and the lack of information provided in our existence. Yes there are many theories and beliefs, none of which have really been proven, but nonetheless there are many explanations and ideas as to where we come from and who we are. There is however no solid evidence of anything, we have a law book we call the bible, based on history and hearsay from the past. We have science that attempts to prove many of the things around us, religion which tries to push their agendas upon us and many opinions to fill our brains with information.

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Status Insult - A Brand New Low

Hello people,

My name is Zierota Slingen and I am going to flat out say that I HATE the TRANSGENDER COMMUNITY. As long as there is internal hate and too much politics, I will not be part of it and you can all go to hell for all I care. I am done helping out. I am done defending, explaining and I get the impression that transgender people don't want to care when they hear some one speak a different opinion than the majority of sheep. I am getting utterly sick of being laughed at, ridiculed and walked over by people who I thought were my own kind. To use status labels like "real women", or crossdresser (to insult while misgendering) is what makes me hate the community and this transphobia that you see below is the reason why I hate those who put people like Janet Mock on a pedestal. Janet Mock needs to keep her dogs on a fucking leash. You want to be an fierce advocate, Janet? Then start teaching domesticly before you go reach out to the big bad world of transphobic cis people.


My voice a fucking joke, you say? The moment I'm dead is the moment NO ONE can hear that ugly voice of mine! Not a real woman, you say? Fuck you, Lehua! I hope in the next life you get Gender Dysphoria so aggressive and a male body so masculine that it makes you want to vomit, injure yourself and eventually take your own life.

I have spoken and this may be the last time I share someting about this topic online. I am going to say piss off trans community. I'm done with you. This is MY life and you can all go to hell.

UPDATE new comments:
lehua nani
04:03
+Zierota Slingen lol  and that's  why your hating cause u have no fans ... work on that voice  and  look u manly bitch
Zierota Slingen
04:12
 
No Lehua, this is not why I hate the transgender community. I hate the community because of the amount of internal transphobia. One expresses a different opinion than a majority and gets run over by people like you who insult me by judging my voice and appearance which is an ad-hominem on your side. I don't agree with everything Janet says and does that mean I deserve to be talked down like I'm trash? I've been threatened and called a racist while race was never part of the discussion. I hate it when people treat figures like a prophet. Simple as that. I don't care if I have fans or not. I'm here to connect with people who do understand and you certainly don't understand what I'm all about because you only see the outside of me, such as voice and appearance. It's bad enough that cis people judge us for how we sound and how we look, but it gets worse when transgender people do it to each other. Oh don't like some one's opinion? Talk trash about their looks and voice! That sure is a way to get your point across, isn't it? Do you know how suicidal this makes us? A lot. Don't think I know about voice training, and all the other stuff? Sure you don't, because you would have only been positive of me if I fully agreed with Janet like I'm not allowed to question her methods. BTW you're blocked!

I don't want your Tolerance!

 
   "Well it's OK, we can put up with her...". Have you ever overheard this then you know what it is like to be "tolerated" by someone or a group of someones. They get together, smile and congratulate themselves for being progressive by putting up with the transgender person in their presence. How MAGNANIMOUS of them! They are so socially progressive they are ahead of the game by a long shot (not).
     This kind of "acceptance" leaves a bad taste in your mouth, they are letting you know that they are better than you. You do not measure up to their level, but they are OK with that. They can tell their friends how advanced they are because they have "a trans friend", and then proceed to be experts on all things transgender. How wonderful!
     They have little or no idea how small it makes a person feel to be tolerated by others because they are different, stand out or have a quirky personality. No matter how hard they try to be nice the fact that they are condescending ooses from every pore. Its like stale bread or a thumb print in the middle of your sandwich.
     It's very difficult to get the idea across to these people that by "being nice" they are actually being incredibly brutal and causing a lot of pain for transgender people. Being "Tolerated" is a complete and utter insult and people should know better! This phenomenon does not only appear in the transgender community, but it cuts across all sectors of society. That being said, I will wager the trans community gets more than their share of this action. Check out what Cara the Rat has to say about tolerance here. She has a lot of things to say about this issue and I agree with her on every level. It's insulting and a shame to be tolerated by people. They should be ashamed of themselves! It's intolerable to be tolerated!

The Transgender Handbook

Saturday, May 10, 2014

Is it all about the Transition?

   
      Do you do anything besides being transgender? Does your entire life revolve around being transgender, transgender issues and transgender friends? How many cisgender friends do you have besides family? Becoming obsessed with your transition and everything trans can be a common mistake that a lot of transgender people make. I understand how life within the transgender community can feel more comfortable because you are at least surrounded by people who understand (regardless of how hostile the trans community can be) and therefore you are safe from people who may not accept you fully, have a problem with your status as a female/male or question your motives. I understand safe, because I understand what it's like not to be safe.
     However, your viewpoint will become insular and you will begin to see the world as an Us Vs. Them situation; separating the world into two camps, those who are trans and those who are not. People wonder where the hostility in the transgender community comes from? Perhaps, like an inbred family, our view of the world begins to deteriorate and eventually we will not be able to really communicate with anyone outside the transgender world, breeding hostility amongst us similar to the principle of Familiarity breeds contempt..
     So do yourself and the rest of the transgender universe a favor and branch out, talk to people outside your little trans bubble. Move your focus off of everything trans for a while, just to give yourself a break. Transitioning is incredibly important and will change your life forever, so it is a very serious issue and one that should be watched carefully. However you don't want to obsess over it and let it take over your entire world. Relax, lighten up, branch out, and enjoy your transition. Learn to be flexible and your transition will be a lot smoother. Bend like a reed in the wind grasshopper, anything less would be a shame...

The Transgender Handbook


Friday, May 9, 2014

Guilt-Trip: When Your Own Argument Backfires

Hello dear readers,

It's been quite some time since I last posted. I do feel like writing for this blog again. My apologies for the absence of my words. I have some great things to share about personal affairs but for now I'd like to make an entry about something else.

When Your Own Argument Backfires
I'd like to dig up an old article before putting my words into perspective. It's about the TWOC. Also known as Trans Woman of Colour. Recently, I had an argument with on self-proclaimed advocate who had a couple of complaints to drop about the articles we've written about Monica Roberts. A couple of things were mentioned such as the hidden anti-white agenda, the white (trans) privilege debate, and the question about special needs for both sides in opposition to each other. As much as I'd like to treat this topic like it's a dead horse, I still feel the need to touch on three final points.

First of all, I've noticed the trend of people who have something to complain about our blog and that's the fact that they don't read or read carefully. This is why when we are stormed by people with a pitchfork & torch mentality, I notice they argue with logical fallacies like cherry picking and strawmen arguments. Because this happens, it becomes very difficult for me to understand the thoughts from their perspective. So, I advice you to learn about logical fallacies. Also make sure that when you have something to complain about our blog that you don't take us out of context.
Second of all, we all have the right to be skeptical. When you have the intention to make us care about what you care for, then don't get pissed off when we tell you that we are not buying what you are selling. The person I told this to was a person I did not trust. Just like I don't trust religious people like Jehova's Witnesses. I have the right to express skepticism about your intentions and methods. I've seen many activists hijack campaigns so it's only logical that I hold back before I can trust a submission. The moment I saw the person blowing up the thread, was the moment I saw that person's moral pride getting hurt instead of something else. #MorallyButthurt.

And the final point I want to make: If you are to tell me something along the lines of "If you don't speak out against racism (or any other particular human world issue) then you allow it to happen" then this is where you shoot yourself in the foot. It's a dishonest argument. See, I don't like interogations from those who think they can be a moral police officer who assumes I have a lack of care. So if you tell me that when I don't speak out against a certain issue, I allow it to happen (making it somewhat equally as bad as those who cause the problems), then the same argument applies on YOU.

If you think this world activism is just a moral game and you think I would fall for your guilt-trip strategy, you are solely mistaken. When you ask me questions like "Would you tell a victim to be silent or speak out against the abuser?" then to me this is not an attempt to get to know me. This your attempt to make me look stupid because loaded questions like these have no right answers in a guilt-trip game. All outcomes are going to lead to bad follow-ups. There is no right answer to this question. Some one already made the assumption that you don't speak out against certain issues of the world and pressures you into answering the question. Even if you would give the least damaging answer, the reactions are the same. "...then why aren't you doing something about it, huh?"
The fact that I recognize these type of guilt trips coming from self-proclaimed activists is because I recognize these dialogues from my experiences in the abusive relationships I suffered from in the past. Just because I am not speaking where you are, doesn't mean I allow abuse. And if you want me to speak against issues that affect you, then I have all the right to question if you'd help me when I'd be falling. There is an LGBT activist in the city I live in who still owes me money and refuses to give it back. It's quite the sum of money too. So, do I have the right to be skeptical about people's intentions for activism? HELL YESS.
Also, keep in mind that this is the internet. It's the kangaroo court of public opinion. There will often be controversy and massive amounts of individuals not understanding eachother. The internet is the place that makes it incredibly easy for public speakers to paint you as a bad person by misrepresenting you and your position. But when you know better, then you have nothing to worry about. Don't bother talking to these brick walls. And since there is this "check your privilege" game going around, I am not going to take the internet seriously. You want to be the morality police and arrest me? Make sure you check your own privileges first and see if your backyard is cleaner than my front yard!


Speaking of privilege, if there is one that affects me a lot more than the one based on skin colour, it's the one called Next Generation. The fact that generations before me have bled and sacrificed a lot to make life easier for me, is a privilege I feel much more urged to talk about because today's generation takes life for granted way too much. Care for an example?
2014 kids: "I have an iPad. I am so cool now!"
90's kids: "I have Nike shoes. You are stupid!"
50's and 60's kids: "Well at least there aren't any aircrafts bombing our cities like ten years ago. We didn't have showers, warm water, colour TV, computers you name it! But we sure did know what respect was! We were already happy with the little things that matter."
I was born in The Netherlands. I still live there. This privilege affects me a lot, because it's today's spoiled brats who become the bullies in schools and work environments being responsible for people's deaths and injuries. All this in European multicultural societies. So, you may say that if I don't speak out against racism (which means you assume that I don't) that I allow/condone it to happen, then by that logic it also means that everything you don't speak out against you also allow to happen.

Thank you for understanding.

Monday, May 5, 2014

"Medical Express" Attacks the Transgender Community!!!

     Recently it has come to my attention that a medical rag called "Medical Express" has just published an article attacking and condemning the entire transgender community as a blight upon society! How can they get away with publishing such bullshit?!?! The mainstream media attacks us again and again on every level and now they have gone so far as to say that medically we should not exist as we are doing damage to society by simply existing? WTF?
     Ryan Sheales is responsible for this load of complete crap and may I dare say, why do our TERF... However, I think the reason why she wrote the article is as obvious as a broken nose, she does not accept herself as being transgender therefore the world should not accept anyone as being transgender.
attackers always look like they are trans? Short hair, no makeup and gender neutral clothing...I would take her for a transman at any LGBT convention any-day. If she corrected me and told me she was a lesbian, that she so obviously is, I would immediately know that she is a card carrying member of
     I am very sad and a great disappointment that a publication such as "Medical Express" can get away with publishing the psychological problems of one of the most broken and arrogant "gender therapists" out there. Its sad, pathetic and a shame on the trans community. You and your staff are directly responsible for the future deaths of transgender people across the globe. Personally you and your staff should be put up against the wall and SHOT for crimes against humanity!!! The article in question can be found here: http://medicalxpress.com/news/2014-04-gender-theorist-transgender-phenomenon.html Feel free to contact them with your suggestions...

Trans Power!!!

The Transgender Handbook

Saturday, May 3, 2014

To Pass, Or not to Pass

     Have you ever noticed that transgender women or men who seem to pass better have more success inside and outside the transgender community? They pass well and seem to get all the attention, all the accolades, the TV roles, documentaries, jobs, advocate status and the right to shun all other transgender people that do not pass well. I have personally seen it happen and actually lost a job to a transwoman who passed better than I did. She lectures now and gets to see her children, most of us do not get that privilege and have to struggle through life suffering the slings and arrows of outrageous assholes doing us over because we do not appear to be the gender we identify with. We don't fit into the cisgender world and we are avoided by our own kind lest we "out" them by our very presence. .
     I have recently heard the phrase "if you are getting clocked then you better step up your game, or you ain't real". A real what? Presumably trans.....they were telling me that if I do not pass as my chosen gender, then I am not trans....WTF! I am so glad that they get to make that determination. If you want more info on that one check out the blog post here. She has a lot of good and bad things to say about the trans community so consider this a trigger warning. Certainly the fact that she passes well gives her an advantage in her "profession" but not the right to judge the status of other transwoman based on whether they pass or not.
     Jacqueline Waters has this to say about it: "I think there is entirely too much emphasis on passing. What is passing anyway? Conforming to patriarchal ideas of what a woman is SUPPOSED to look like? Or if you are a man are you not a "real man" if you don't look like "The Rock:? Why are we so obsessed with passing, why not just look how you want to look be how you want to be and tell society to fuck themselves if they don't like it? That is what I do!" 
     She is dead on! There is way too much emphasis on passing in either the cis or transgender world, and it's mostly coming from the top down. The top of the Transgender Hierarchy of Evil, those who pass, and the rest of us at the bottom of the pyramid. Those of us who make people uncomfortable simply for being ourselves. Those of us who will never find work or a boyfriend/Girlfriend because we don't blend in at all.
     However, we can put a lot of emphasis on passing, or none whatsoever. The fact remains that if you are "beautiful" or "handsome" you are going to breeze through life a lot easier than people who do not. You are going to get the opportunities that we do not simply because we are not attractive in a stereotypical way. This is brutal, ugly and disgusting! But there it is. Beautiful people (those who pass) will always have an advantage of those of us who are not so genetically blessed. That's all it is by the way, genetics! It has actually nothing to do with you being a better or worse person than the next transgender down the block!. Did you get that? You're not better than us despite your advantages in this world, and you never will be. If anything I have found transgender people who pass extremely well to be incredible snobs, avoiding any contact with those of us who may smoke them out. They come off as being elitist and arrogant, turning their backs on the very people who fight and scrape for every right they have as a transperson. 
     We as a community have to look deeper than the surface for our inspiration because our advocates are paper tigers propped up by the media because they are attractive(Janet Mock). I cannot help wondering how awesome her writing and acting career would be if she looked like a 6'4 inch tall quarterback who cannot pass in the dark. I dare say she would be nowhere and someone else, someone prettier, would be in her place. Yet she is another "advocate" because she can act and have her book ghost written. Brutal! Being successful because you are pretty/handsome is one of the most shameful aspects of our societies and it's killing transgender people everywhere...

The Transgender Handbook
    

Thursday, May 1, 2014

Trans 100 Who and What Is It Really?



I believe the community should be recognize for it's plight, for all that we have had to endure for being who we are. But who gets to choose who should be part of this good ole boys and girls club? What kind of selective process is behind this so called Club?

Transgender Wars

     There is a war going on in the transgender community. A war over words that is causing a lot of damage to a lot of people in the transgender community and is making us look like crazy, aggressive, nasty people to the cisgender community. The word of course is "Tranny" and all of its other forms that are tossed around not only the transgender community but by many other factions in our "society". These words have power, yes, but only if we let them. Right now we are letting the words control us on a massive scale and spreading a lot of anger and hatred around.
     It's a sad fact that these words are not going to go anywhere, we are stuck with them wither we like it or not, so the only option we have to regain our power over these bits of the English language is to take the words back. However before we can contemplate doing something as progressive at that, we have to calm the f^$& Down! Blasting each other over this is pointless, childish and chicken.

The Transgender Handbook

Clothing makes the Woman?

    
     Recently a new friend of mine made a joke about me as she was leaving after a pleasant visit at a place I am house-sitting. "People are going to think that you are my boyfriend if you don't start dressing like a girl...lol". I was wearing jeans and a t-shirt.... I know the joke was in jest, but it speared me like a fish and I am left wondering why I am considered "male" simply because I am not wearing a dress and attempting to look like a 1950's housewife?
    I have seen this king of behavior and social shaming since i began my transition, and for the longest time you would not catch me in a pair of jeans and I would be upset by transwoman who would.  I got hassled so much that I was jealous they were "ducking out" on all the negativity you get as a transgender woman. I was somehow I was being real and they were not...what complete and utter bullshit! I have trouble sometime knowing that I actually thought that way, but there it is.
     So now here I am several years since my transition at the butt end of a joke simply because of the way that I was dressed. Do clothes make the woman? Does a cisgender woman turn into a man if she wears jeans and a t-shirt? Of course the answer is no, so why do transwomen tend to look at things that way? Why is there such a rigid stereotype when it comes to how we dress?
     Personally I am going to continue to wear whatever makes me comfortable and anyone who does not like it will not be around too long. If that means I am smashing the stereotype with bluejeans, then so be it! Wear what you like and to be damned with the stereotypes because they are nothing but a shame.

The Transgender Handbook

Monday, April 28, 2014

Mace in the Face!

     How often does this happen? You are sitting alone on a subway/skytrain/bus and some asshole(s) start making fun of you for no other reason other then you are transgender and visible. They give you funny looks, make comments and laugh out loud, causing the other passengers to notice you and give you that "OMG" look of judgement they so often like to dish out. Name calling, cruel jokes and intimidation by people who want you to conform to the norm; and if you don't they will use any socially acceptable technique to try to get you to fall in line. It's instinct, they are programmed to be that way, just like their parents and their parents before them. I have watched as fathers explained to their sons about me and how they should not be fooled by "men in dresses". I know how it feels, and you just want to go ballistic. But you can't, you just can't...
     Letting them "get your goat" is what they want, they want a show to kill the boredom of sitting there waiting for their next stop. They look around and they see you, an obvious target, and proceed to attack for fun and profit. If you react how they expect, like an aggressive man(yes I said it), you will end up in a confrontation which usually ends up with you looking like a fool and possibly being charged for uttering threats or even assault. These things can escalate very quickly as you can see in the video below, ending up with a child being maced and someone being wanted by the police. Can you imagine what would have happened if she had a gun? And all she really had to do was to walk away, down the aisle to the door to the next train car. It's as simple as that. By doing do you take away all of their power and you avoid the hassle and aggravation of the whole situation.
     I understand that when under attack, your hormones and adrenaline kick in and you want to fight! To stand up for your rights as a transwoman! But all you will ever succeed in doing is proving to them that you are a "crazy tranny" just like they thought. Not only that, but you set up the next transwoman they meet for the same treatment if you give them a show. You can see the audience in the video enjoying the spectacle of just another "crazy tranny", who then posted the video for all the world to see how we are represented. How the world thinks we behave. It's brutal and a damn shame on the entire transgender community so please, think twice next time and just walk away!.

 


Thursday, April 24, 2014

Divided We Stand



It appears that there are two camps being created in our community, well maybe a bit more than two but for this article let us say there is a side that has no issues with labels and the other who base their happiness and well being on words.  It seems that the biggest beef with the censor trans police is with the entertainment industry. The screaming about who should play a role of a Trans Woman or which portrayal should be put in the spot light is one of the issues with this camp. They tore down an actor for doing his job, and expected to be the center of attention during his award ceremony. They criticized the character, even though there is truth to this reality. Do they not realize that there are trans woman who are prostitutes and have aids?

Transgender?

    Have you ever noticed how a lot of transwomen make weird pronouncements about how "they must be transwomen because.."? I have seen this kind of phenomenon all over the internet, Facebook and blogs. The notion that you "must be a woman because" it just another manifestation of the trans hierarchy and an indication that someone who is seeking constant reassurance that they are trans, might not be trans.
     Below you can see an example of a transwoman using the onset of an incredibly debilitating disease as proof that she "must be a woman". If find this unbelievable, thinking that a disease is specific to only women(I am not a doctors so I don't know if that is true) proves your womanhood then there should be a serious look taken at your transition. Those who are trans "know" they are transgender from a very young age need no outside reassurance that this is the case. You know it in your soul, your bones and your blood that you were born in the wrong body. Whether or not you pass as a woman has NOTHING to do with whether or not you are transgender, just to be clear. If you are clocked as a man or "tranny" it dose not mean that you are not "real trans" as Madison Hinton's video claims; "if your get read you are not real trans". She also goes on to claim that if you're not getting money "for being under a man" then you are "one dumb bitch". Implying that you be a prostitute or you are stupid, wtf. She does not care about the word tranny, so what. That does not give her the right to decide who is trans and who is not based on her decision to live the life of a prostitute and whether or not you pass as a woman perfectly. But I Digress...
     Transwomen who say "I can pass therefore I must be trans" or "I am/can _____ therefore I must be a woman" are doing a disservice to the transgender community by spreading around the misinformation that stereotypical traits and behaviors prescribed to women are an indicator that you are transgender, this cannot be farther from the truth.  Liking the color pink does not make you any more trans then someone who likes green or blue; stereotypes do not apply!. So please, if you're basing your entire transition on any stereotypical traits that you might have(or imagine to have) then you might want to reconsider transitioning at all. Cisgender people do not require reassurance that they are cisgender, and neither should transwomen. Stick to the real evidence people, anything else is just a shame.



The Transgender Handbook

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

What's in a Name?


      Have you ever noticed how some transgender women (and men) sometimes choose a hyper-sexualized name and then wonder why they don't get any respect. In fact the transgender community as a whole suffers from a lack of respect in general and these types of names do not help the matter. They only serve to make transgender people look like sexual deviants only interesting in one thing; sex.

Saturday, April 19, 2014

Icons Galore!

     Have you ever noticed how many transgender people seem to pronounce that they are Icons or Leaders in the transgender community simply because they have a band, write articles or simply just have had some experience transitioning? Every second day I come across a transgender person declaring to the world that they are a transgender icon. Seldom have a run across a actual transgender icon, and when I do, they are not claiming to be icons!!! They are simply living their lives the best way they know how. Based on their success and talent they become icons that are chosen by the trans community!

Friday, April 18, 2014

Hypocracy From Fierce Diva Advocates

My head spins and my heart pounds every time I hear another controversial circus created by the "Trans Community". You know I am beginning to question the role of gender specialists in our community. How well are these therapist screening these individuals before they are given a letter to take hormones, cut or add body parts? I believe many transgender individuals have narcissistic disorder, suffer from heavy depression and not just due to Gender Dysphoria either, so of coarse every time they get a chance to pull out the knives and scream bloody murder, they are the first in line. How can you justify administrating hormones on those that are an accident waiting to happen? Carmen Carrera after competing on RuPaul's Drag Race and gaining her fame, now decides she wants to bite the hand that fed her. She laughed during the show's She Mail segment and claimed to be okay with her "boy" body, but all of a sudden she is now offended and trying to create further attention by rounding up the angry mob and screaming bloody murder over a word. A word that has been around before most of them were even born.

Thursday, April 17, 2014

Killing It With Drugs


     Have you ever relied on drugs to make it through your day? They can make the pain go away, temporarily. Granted that being transgender is quite possibly the hardest thing a person can possibly be in our society. You are dumped on with so much transphobia and negativity that your entire world can turn gray and dingy. People just keep pouring it on day after day, hour after hour. Constantly reminding you of what they THINK you are, rather than treating you like a human being deserving respect and even admiration.

Sunday, April 13, 2014

The Divisive Factor of Religion

      We all piled out of the transgender group meeting and stood in the corridor waiting for the elevator. The air was filled with people chatting while we waited for the aging elevator to make its careful climb up to the third floor. Eventually the doors swung open and well all got on and headed for the main floor. I bent over to adjust my shoe and out of my blouse popped my cross.

Friday, April 11, 2014

Post-Op Snobs?

     Ever since I began my transition I have heard that post-op transsexuals are suppose to be elitist snobs always looking down on pre-op's, non-op's and women who chose the orchiectomy option. This could not be more wrong or damaging to the transgender community and is just another example of The Transgender Hierarchy of Evil. However, this is different from the usual top down view of this ridiculous "totem pole" but is in fact a bottom up view. The usual lateral hostility, but in the opposite of its usual direction.

Thursday, April 10, 2014

The People Who Create Hate and The People Who Suffer as a Result

 
THE LIES FROM PEOPLE WHICH CREATE HATE 
This video was produced by a religious group called The Pacific Justice Institute intended to spread a vile lie about a 16 year old transgender girl smearing her and causing her to be placed on suicide watch. These are adults that felt it was necessary to show the world in the name of god its ok to bully a transgender teen. They achieved this by lying and trying to instill fear in people about The Bathroom Bill which would allow transgender teens to use the appropriate bathroom according to the gender in which they identify with rather than that of their birth gender. This video was made to smear and harass this transgender child and try to make a point and have that Bill vetoed. These same piece of shit religious right wing assholes also created a false claim that this 16 year old transgender girl was harassing other girls in the restroom which was later found to be a fabricated story by a Transphobic parent and was all arranged by The Pacific Justice Institute.
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